To go up in life there are three methods to do so, 1) Climb the ladder by yourself, 2) Pull people equal and above you downwards and 3) Both of them.
The best people I have met always went along with approach number 1. However, it is a dog eat dog world. Your loss is someone elseβs win. If you continue with approach 1, chances are that people might take advantage of you and use method 2 to disrupt your trajectory.
Hence, a person should be strong enough to shrug off spiteful words, ignore sneers and taunts and most importantly, keep moving forward. The best metaphor for this is the elephant. It moves steadily with a rapid pace, getting bothered by nothing, with even lions and tigers scurrying away if they see it coming closer.
So one should try to be like an elephant, and I do not advocate burying your face inside a packet of chips to do so.
Not everyone is psychologically healthy and mentally astute to completely disregard attempts by malicious intent to bring a person down. Even the most resilient rock finally breaks down after constant hammering, and an ordinary human mind can only take so much stress before it breaks down.
So what is the best way to eliminate the downward pull of other people? The answer is easy. Avoidance. Avoiding those who try to disregard your thoughts and mock your ambitions is the best thing you can do.
It is not an act of cowardice to stay away from an environment which is not conducive to your development, but a brave one.
The idea of finding new people who share the same ambition as you and have similar characteristics is challenging. However, that does not mean that there is no support system. Sometimes, less is more. Keeping less number of people who pull you downward is more upthrust for you.
As a general rule of thumb, people are the average of their (real) friends. So if you are in a group full of bitter and malevolent people, chances are, you will pick some of their characteristics soon. If you are in the presence of hard-working people who strive to become better, you will be found working for your betterment.
So to make inner changes, make changes to the outside.
Finding a proper environment takes time. Too often, people are stuck in a place where they don't belong. There are multiple reasons for it, but identifying whether you don't belong to a particular location is the first step one can take for their betterment.
Be careful, though as this is a very slippery slope. Moving to a new place and finding comfortable friends and surroundings does not mean that you are on the right track. Make sure that your environment is helping you go upwards, instead of stagnating in the same place.
Before chucking all your friends away, kindly recognise that this article does not advocate for this. Conduct a proper introspection for yourself and try to see what changes you need as well. Because after all, you are your best friend.
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